Writing Is A Bad Habit: Love is Love a.k.a. All Flavors of Romance

Merry Christmas Eve, friends!

The holiday rush left me away from the keyboard yesterday, but I’m not one to shirk my responsibilities.  Here we go, then, with this week’s Writing Is A Bad Habit, to talk about romance in writing.  More specifically, I want to talk about the ins-and-outs of writing a non-heterosexual romance, that is to say a LGBT, and any other letters you can add to that, romance.

To someone that is purely heterosexual, this may seem like a difficult thing to do.  Maybe you feel uncomfortable with the concept or perhaps you have a fear of being offensive to others.  Either one may motivate you to avoid the topic entirely, yet this isn’t the best way to approach it, especially in a world that is coming to grips that these alternate sexualities are as healthy and valid as normal, straight sexualities.

This may seem hard, but there is a simple trick to dealing with the core matters of the relationship in such cases.  Here it is …. get ready for it!

The secret is … it’s just like any other kind of love and romance.  No, really, trust me, I know this first hand.  As a non-heterosexual person myself, take it from me and my time talking about these things with friends of every sexual persuasion.  There is nothing, at the romantic level, that is different or unusual about non-hetero love and relationships.  It is, in all essential purposes, the same.

Now, the real potential trip-ups can come in if you decide to explore past the romance to the societal and cultural issues that can come up from such romances.  For a well-rounded, realistic story, you may have to add considerable dollops of cultural elements and biases to your story.  Still, this isn’t any different from exploring other themes of societal prejudice.  Would you feel comfortable writing about racial issues, class divides, or biases and prejudices based on differing nationalities?  These are no different than dealing with issues of sexual discrimination.

What I want to conclude with is that you shouldn’t feel, if you are a heterosexual, that you can’t include non-hetero romance in your writing.  Simply treat it as any other romance you may write; it is in the end no different.

Until next time, good reading, good writing, and good luck!

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